I was flipping through Harper’s Bazaar magazine recently and came across an article titled “Divorce Envy.” You can check out the article here. Divorce envy….is there such a thing and what is it? The article explains that many couples going through a heated divorce are experiencing “divorce envy” when their colleagues and friends are ending their unions in a more peaceful and friendly way. Think of it as “keeping up with the Joneses divorce style.”
What better example than Hollywood actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay’s Chris Martin who refer to their separation as “conscious uncoupling.” It is not a surprise that many couples are opting for a zen divorce. Heated divorce battles are costly and can become a very long drawn out process. Would you want a divorce that lasts longer than the amount of time you were married? Likely not.
Nevertheless, it’s important not to beat yourself up if you are involved in a bitter divorce rather than an amiable one. Sometimes a civil divorce is impossible if you are not getting the cooperation you need from your ex-spouse. Cooperation and commitment is needed from both parties to have a somewhat peaceful divorce.
While envy is never a great feeling, it perhaps is a great motivator to cooperate with your ex-spouse in the divorce process.
Tell me what you think. Have you experienced “divorce envy?”