Divorce Cakes

With the celebration of marriage, for some individuals there is also a celebration to be had in divorce. Here’s a funny article I came across that showcases divorce cakes! Very creative indeed….


Joys of Co-Parenting

In my more recent Huffington Post article, I provided some tips on healthy and successful co-parenting.  As I’ve stated before, I am not an expert on co-parenting, but the tips I’ve provided are from the experiences that I’ve witnessed through clients who are going through many difficult co-parenting challenges in divorce.

This morning I read an article on People.com about Hollywood actor, Josh Lucas and how he finds co-parenting to be “amazingly enjoyable.”  This should provide hope to those who are going through difficult co-parenting issues right now because there can be a point in time when co-parenting is in fact “amazingly enjoyable” ~ It is my belief that it requires communication, respect for the other parent and a lot of hard work.  If Josh Lucas can do it, so can you.


Preparing For Child Custody Mediation

I recently wrote a blog post for The Huffington Post discussing the importance of preparation for child custody mediation.  This is not something to be taken lightly since a mediator’s recommendation could determine your parenting plan for many years to come.

In San Diego, this is especially true since a Family Court Services mediator’s recommendation has great importance and sway in the Court’s decision to implement a specific parenting plan.

Check out my Huffington Post article for some important tips and things to consider when preparing for child custody mediation.


Most Expensive Divorce

In most of my articles that I write for The Huffington Post, I always stress the importance of being mindful of costs.  When you divorce, there are a lot of added costs that you have to consider, specifically with attorney’s fees and costs.  The last thing you want to do is spend all your hard earned money on attorney’s fees.

This morning I read this article on CNN….apparently this is now the most expensive divorce in history! In this divorce, husband was ordered to pay his wife $4.5 billion dollars! I wonder how much this couple spent on attorney’s fees….it was most likely outrageous as well.

Check out the article on CNN.com.


The Value in Healthy Co-Parenting

I recently wrote an article for the Huffington Post to discuss the importance of healthy co-parenting.  I am by no means an expert in parenting since I do not have children.  However, I do feel that the foundation of co-parenting goes to the basics of any healthy relationship.  Any healthy relationship requires communication, patience and respect and if you start with that foundation, I believe you are well on your way to a more healthy co-parenting relationship as well.

Working with clients over the years, I have heard the difficulty and complexities involved in co-parenting relationships.  However, it can be done and when you strive to keep disputes out of court, it really does pave the way to a healthier relationship with your ex-spouse, especially given the fact that you and your ex-spouse, as parents, will have a relationship with each other for the rest of your lives.

I remember working with an attorney on a prior case and during settlement negotiations, she reminded each spouse that one day, your children will get married and you both will want to be at the wedding smiling and celebrating this special occassion without any bitterness or resentment from the past.  That’s a great reminder because there will be many more milestones and celebrations ahead and your children will need you both.

While the tips I provide in my article are not fool-proof, t’s definitely a start in getting to a place where you and your ex-spouse can experience a more healthy and successful co-parenting relationship for the best interests of your children.


Sperm Donor Rights

Does a sperm donor mean dad? That’s the latest and interesting article released by The New York Times. You can find the article here.

The age-old question continues to be a hot to trot topic…especially with Hollywood celebrity actor Jason Patrick getting in on the debate.  If you haven’t heard, Jason Patrick, known for his roles in The Lost Boys and Speed with Sandra Bullock is in a heated custody battle over a child conceived through in vitro fertilization.  If anything, I think this certainly adds a layer to the debate over what “family” means as traditional views of family continue to be stretched and dissected.

Definitely something to think about….